Making time for themselves is one of the trickiest challenges parents can face. It is so easy to get wrapped up in the busy schedule of keeping your family and household together and it is little wonder that parents battle to take a bit of ‘me time’ every now and again. However, taking a time out is really important for your physical, emotional and mental wellbeing.
Think about it, if you don’t take a breather every now and again, you are probably going to become agitated, anxious, moody, restless and annoyed. The stress of modern day living coupled with that of having a family can be overwhelming and it’s so easy to get submerged in the role of parent, wife or husband. Eventually you may end up forgetting who you are when you are not fulfilling those roles. Which is why ‘me time’ is so important. It helps you re-connect with yourself again and provides you with the opportunity of getting reacquainted with yourself. This in turn, could help you feel refreshed, centered and more at ease. If you come to think about it, the perks are endless and there really is no excuse for not taking time out every now and again.
It is important, when scheduling in ‘me time’ to set clear boundaries and to not allow other things to creep into your allocated time. It is not free time. It is ‘me time’ and is something you need to work into your schedule, like any other important task.
Sure, you may at first feel a little guilty. There is, after all, so much to do and when you are not doing that, it might feel like you are being unproductive. However, taking the time to just relax and unwind is productive in nurturing your well-being and identity of self, which in turn will positively affect your family life.
Fit yourself in
You will need to schedule your time in around the family’s schedule. Perhaps first speak to your spouse about taking some time out for yourself. Then, with your freed up hours, indulge yourself in the luxurious activities that invigorate you and bring a smile to your face. It could be a walk in the park, a pampering session, an hour at the spa, a trip to the mall, a movie or just a cat nap, the key is to tune out the rest of the world.
If you can’t always allocate a couple of hours to yourself on a regular basis, just taking 20 minutes a day to turn off the noises in your world could suffice.
The added bonus of setting clear boundaries when it comes to alone time, is that it will teach your children independence and help them realise that sometimes, you need to put your needs first too. They will begin to understand that parents are not always super-parents but humans who also need to recharge their batteries.
Buddhist philosophy states that one should ‘treasure silence when you find it, and while being mindful of your duties, set time aside, to be alone with yourself.’ So, what are you waiting for? Disconnect that phone and treat yourself to some well deserved ‘me time’!