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I flipping tries hard, but the fight was not worth te stress it was causing to me, dh and Merrick. He is a pretty damn healthy kid. And myself and my brother turned out just fine and we were formula babies.
I dont care what pages says on FB or anywhere else. they DONT live in MY HOME! They dont knwo what we go through. We as mothers or shall I say parents, do the best that we can.
I think you should get away from these pages as they are clearly affecting you and upsetting you.
NEVER FORGET! YOU ARE A WONDERFUL MOMMY AND DOING THE BEST YOU CAN DO!!!!!
Very true B- some people derive pleasure from breaking others down but when the tables are turned, cannot handle it.
I think what babyblue says is good advice, I distance myself from things like that.
DN I had the same problem,I was all for natural birth and then changed my mind half way throu my pregnancy my SIL is a doctor and told me that I'm mad to go for a c-section, as it was supposed to be natural and me other SIL forced the same views on me.
Then Erin was born 6 weeks early and without the sucking reflex so they tube fed her, eventually she got the sucking reflex and I desperately wanted to breast feed but I couldn't as my nipples are slightly inverted, so I expressed for 8 weeks, I would have stopped much earlier as I hated every minute of it, but DH forced me to carry on, eventually I decided enough was enough and he finally agreed to let me stop as we were going away and I refused to be expressing on holiday with his family. (he sounds like an a**hole, but our paed told him it was very nb as LO was prem).
Anyway, my thoughts on the situation, unless the baby is coming out of your vagina, or latching onto your breast, you have NO room to talk!!! It's the same as babies sleeping in their parents room, while I did it with Erin for 8 weeks, I don't think less of people for doing it for longer or not as all, what every works for the parents and baby is what they need to do and nobody should impose their opinions on others.
Over the weekend my other SIL (I have way too may of them) was visiting and said I must give Erin, who is almost 7 months old some of my Oreo mcflurry, cos she'll love it, and it wasn't for me as I don't agree with giving her dairy and definitely no chocolate at her age, but if she did it with her kids, them great for her, they're her kids and if she wants to give them that then its her problem and her choice
Just remove yourself from the situation where you feel uncomfortable and surround yourself with people that will support your decision no matter what that may be.
As for Nixie, no offense intended, but throwing your opinion on vaccinations, is very uncalled for, no one tells you you're a bad mom for not doing it, so why feel the need to tell moms that do do it that exact thing. We all have enough to worry about and decide what to do for the good of our kids without other people judging us and telling us we made the wrong choice. If the studies were more conclusive and they could prove that there was a direct link to the MMR shot and autism do you not think they would have taken it off the market??!!?
I had to start supplementing my baby with formula at 2.5months, as my milk wasn't 'strong' enough. Now the paed, and gp, and clinic sister all told me that there is no such thing as breastmilk not being 'strong' enough. In my opinion they talk RUBBISH!!! I started expressing at 2months as my mom was here to help with the baby while i did our company financial year end. When she arrived I wasn't under much pressure, my milk was creamy white and had a layer of cream/fat ontop when left to stand for a while. A week later things were REALLY hectic, I wasn't sleeping well, working from 8am to 8pm and guess what!! my milk looked like it had been watered down. It was almost a see through grey-white colour, no creamy layer on top, AND my baby started drinking 2 or 3 more bottels per day, she was miserable and crying alot.
This is when I decided to supplement her once a day with formula. The change in her was immediate. She was happy, and sleeping well.
I then started taking the annemia supplement that I was given in the hospital aswell as my prenatal vits again, and slowly my milk quality picked up again.
Alexi then refused to breastfeed or drink expressed breastmilk at 5months (i was devestated) but has since been on formula and is a healthy, strong, and very intelligent child.
SO my point is, although they say that breastmilk is the best for your baby, your milk might not be nutritious enough to feed your growing baby, or your baby might need more than you can offer.
Don't let these people get to you and make you feel judged.
People only have the power to make you feel judged if you allow/accept their judgments. Stand by your decision and bugger the rest, you do what's best for you and your baby/kids
My breastmilk gave Mbali horrible cramps. and all the medical proffesionals also told me that there is no such thing. but everytime i give her milk not even ten minutes afterwards she started screaming even after burping and curling herself into a ball. and the day we switched to formula the difference was like day and night. she was such a content baby after that and no more screaming sessions after feeding. so ja breastfeeding didnt work out for us either.
that is what makes me so mad is that all these naturalist wont bother to ask why couldnt u breastfeed or what made you decided not to they just assume u are a bad mother for not breastfeeding
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