There’s more to babies than just eating and sleeping. All you have to do to find this subtle side to them is to watch them closely. While doing so you’ll realise that even from this tender age the basics of their personalities are already well entrenched!
Like finger prints, personalities are unique and your baby will show his faint or understated traits giving clues to the person he’ll grow up to be. These will develop with time, growing stronger month by month.
People often wonder why their babies cry when someone new tries to hold them. Perhaps your baby shows strong signs of distress when someone unfamiliar to him merely enters the room. Or perhaps your little one is very friendly with everyone, familiar or not.
He may prefer being left alone or playing on his own, or he may constantly demand your attention or that of anyone available to him.
His stamp will follow into adulthood
These are just some of the personality traits your child may display, they are part of his individual stamp and mostly, these mannerisms will grow and follow him into adulthood.
Don’t be alarmed if your baby shows signs of aggression, again, it is his stamp. However, with negative hints of his personality peeping through this would be the ideal time to address such and guide him to a more positive level.
You may notice he is alert or rather laid back, noisy or quiet. Whatever positive attributes he displays, encourage them as much as you can, while gently working to dispel any negative personality signatures.
Introverted vs extroverted
Some personality clues take a little longer to develop. By the time your baby arrives at his first birthday you will have a good grasp on whether he is introverted or extroverted. An extrovert baby will show playful mannerisms and be inquisitive without being shy. An introvert will display signs of curiosity but will be more cautious about exploring new territory. A combination of genes and environment affect your baby’s tendency toward an introverted or extroverted personality. Recognise your baby’s personality type and adjust your parenting techniques accordingly in order to complement it. For example, your baby might need to see you are around in new situations because his confidence may be a bit scratchy. You have to learn to understand how your baby reacts to different situations with people, noise and activity and then deal with him accordingly.
It goes without saying, however, that from the very first stages your baby will display strong characteristics relating to his sex.
Tidy cot, tidy brain!
There are those babies who are born with a sense of organisation. It’s like these little people are born with an internal alarm clock, wanting to eat and sleep at definite times. When dealing with a baby of this nature, life will flow a lot calmer for both you and baby if you structure your day around baby’s schedule. As he gets older start by introducing small changes into his day to gradually prepare him for bigger disruptions that we all know life will inevitably throw his way.
Another baby may be completely unpredictable, giving the schedule-driven parent nightmares. Sometimes he is playful and wants to eat in the morning or he wakes showing no interest in food at all. His daytime naps and night sleeping routine may be anything but a routine with sleep coming and going seemingly as the wind changes!
It is important you refrain from trying to force routine initially, but slowly introducing a level of organisation in less important routines.
All the while, remember that as small as they are, babies have their own personalities. They are not necessarily just being naughty and they certainly didn’t wake up deciding that today was a good day to freak mom out!