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What Kids Really Want From Their Parents

Giving kids what they wantThe needs of children are simple! As adults we have a habit of over-complicating things, we assume that our children want more – more toys, more gadgets, more outings, more things that only money can buy but a child’s most precious memories are centred around things that money can’t buy. We all know the famous Beatle’s song -Money can’t buy you love , well money can’t buy a child’s happiness and it can’t buy a child’s respect. More importantly, however, no matter how much money you spend on a child, their fondest and most precious memories will be of the simple moments in their childhood where little or no money was spent.

Here’s a list of the top things that kids really want their parents to do and how the actions of their parents makes them feel. This Christmas instead of stuffing your child’s stocking with tons of toys, why not make an  effort to give your child a gift of time and understanding. Both cost nothing but both yield wonderful rewards!

  1. Turn off the TV or the laptop when it’s time for me to go to bed and spend your time tucking me in, singing me a song or reading me a bedtime story. When you show me how important I am in your life and how much you enjoy spending time with me, I feel special, loved and secure. Don’t get too angry when I don’t want to go to sleep right away – remember I won’t be little forever and one day, I will be too big to be tucked in!

 

  1. Give me food that is good for me and that helps me to grow up to be strong and healthy. Don’t forget that I need you to make the right choices for me, so be sure to give me lots of food that is nutritious and healthy. Sometimes, it’s okay if we share a chocolate for breakfast!

 

  1. Make sure that I get enough exercise and always encourage me to play outside so that I can enjoy the feel of the sunshine on my face and the sweetness of the summer breeze. When I’m all grown up, I want to remember the way dirt felt between my fingers and my toes and I also want to have lots of happy, carefree memories of how it felt when I was rolling on the grass, watching the clouds pass, eating mud pies or catching flying ants after the rain. Don’t let me stay inside for too long and don’t let me spend my childhood stuck in front of a TV screen or in front of a computer.

 

  1. Always show me how much you love me. Give me tons of hugs and kisses and tell me how much I mean to you. Even when I don’t do what I am supposed to do or when I do things wrong and I let you down, I still need to know that you love me and that you forgive me. Your love will help me to feel confident and independent and the memory of how much you loved me will get me through when times are tough when I am older.

 

  1. Spend your time with me! Focus on me only and spend time getting to know me as a person. There is so much I want to learn and there is so much I want to know. Talk to me about the things that are important to you, tell me about how things were when you were growing up and let me get to know you. Don’t get angry or annoyed when I ask you lots and lots of questions, it just shows you that I am curious about the world that I live in and I look to you for the answers. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know all the answers, maybe we can figure them out together.

 

  1. Let’s eat dinner together every night. While we’re enjoying our food we can share stories about our day or we can talk about the fun things that we have planned for the weekend or for the holidays. Encourage me to share my opinion and my thoughts with you and don’t get too upset when I disagree with you (especially when I am a teenager), it just shows that you have encouraged me to think and that I am able to make up my own mind.

 

  1. Discipline me and teach me right from wrong. Don’t forget that the world is new to me and I don’t know what to do unless you show me. Teach me the value of manners and respect. When you take the time to discipline me and you teach me the right way to do things, it shows me how much you really love and care for me and how important it is to you, that I grow up with manners and respect.

 

  1. Let’s do lots of fun things together. I love it when you act silly or when you play games with me. Let’s get movies or watch TV together and cuddle under the blanket. I love being close to you. I am only little for a while so we must make the most of our time together.

 

  1. Be my parent! I need you to do all the caring for me and I need you to make some of my decisions when I am really small because I know that you have my best interests at heart. Don’t make me grow up too quickly and don’t put too much responsibility on me. I am just a child and I need all the guidance that you can give me so that one day when I have to leave you, I will be wise enough to do things right.

 

  1. Let me follow my dreams. I know that you have big dreams for me and I know that you want the best for me but when you have done all that you can for me, you need to let me go and you need to support the decisions that I make. Your dreams are not the ones for me.

 

As parents, we often over-estimate what our children really want, but kids are wise and the joy of seeing the world through the eyes of kids is that things are a lot simpler than we think. It may be a good idea to follow the advice of our children and give them what they really want! It may just help us all to realise that life need not be as complicated as we make it out to be and that we should all take the time out to enjoy the simple joys of life – and spend some time rolling on the grass and feeling the warmth of the sun on our faces.

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