You may find you burst into tears when the family meal you’ve cooked turns out just a bit less than perfect. Your spouse may make a joke you ordinarily would have split your sides laughing over but this time you feel attacked and vulnerable and end up lashing out. The fact that you feel a fool for bursting into tears so easily may anger you immensely but the emotional rollercoaster you’re presently riding at full speed simply doesn’t seem to stop, no matter how much control you try to exert over it.
Don’t worry! You are not alone and you are not losing your mind. There’s a simple name for this emotional game that is going on inside you, and it’s called pregnancy. Now some pregnant women sail through their pregnancies without a single emotional problem while others struggle in a war of emotions. But being armed with knowledge beforehand can go a long way in helping you should you find yourself in this emotional turmoil.
A bag full of emotions
It can be a confusing thought that the idea of a defenseless little baby not yet even properly formed in your tum can add large doses of emotional stress to your life and very often it brings with it a mixture of simultaneous feelings of joy, anxiety, elation and fatigue.
Pregnancy can have a powerful effect on one’s emotions and these emotions are quite capable of changing by the minute.
The reason for this is rising hormone levels which are needed to help start nourishing your growing baby. There is a connection between hormone levels and the brain’s neurotransmitters, the main one being serotonin. We know that serotonin regulates moods and some of us women are far more susceptible to the serotonin changes during this time.
This can start as early as the first trimester, when your tummy is still flat as a pancake, so it can be difficult to understand. It can also last throughout the pregnancy.
To deal with these emotions, remind yourself that what you’re feeling is normal. Take good care of yourself, and look to your partner and other loved ones for understanding and encouragement. If your moods change too much, however, becoming severe or intense and things appear to be getting too out of order for you to deal with it may be worth chatting to your doctor about.
For the boys!
Husbands will often discuss their pregnant wives’ moods with their friends in similar positions. They may be unable to get a handle on their sweet, loving spouses who for no apparent reason can turn monster-like on them!
They often try everything in the book to not only make their wives calm, but perhaps even happy. But often little seems to work, or at least to last.
But for the husbands: don’t despair! It’s all a hormone thing and these little hormones will sort themselves out soon enough. Your best bet is to listen to her and read some literature that will help you understand what is actually going on inside her body and her mind.